Mindful Roots

And why is it the most crucial prerequisite before even thinking about parenthood

Any marriage, whether arranged or love, takes an equal amount of effort. It’s probably the most patient and consistently demanding aspect of your life. Don’t worry – this isn’t a marriage counseling session. It’s more of a reflection on the last 2.5 years of my own life.

I always believed I had enough patience to handle any situation, good or bad. Then I realized that living with someone for the rest of your life requires an entirely different patience. And I don’t mean this negatively. In fact, it’s been one of the most fulfilling journeys to watch a relationship evolve into something so real.

Every good thing takes time to mature. Your relationship should not feel like an adrenaline rush. It should feel like a calm, steady presence. The presence that believes in you when the world gets mean.

You might be wondering if this is a blog or just a page from my diary filled with random thoughts. But today, I wanted to keep this piece as raw as possible. Because beyond all the noise of audience building and content strategies, writing – at its core – is a gift to communicate and express without filters. And this particular topic deserves such honesty.

What really holds a family together

Raising a child is one of the most private journeys a couple will ever take. Which is why, before thinking about parenthood, it’s essential to look inward, to understand the bond you share with your partner.

Whatever exists between you two – love, tenderness, unspoken resentment, or unresolved anger – will quietly shape your child. You can’t hide energy from children; they absorb it. So, it’s better to mend the cracks early.

The only way to deepen your bond is by being brutally honest with each other – about your fears, insecurities, habits, and expectations. Trust me, it works like magic. It builds confidence, respect, and emotional transparency, helping you see your partner beyond the outer layers and understand them for who they truly are.

The part no one talks about when planning a baby

When we think about “pregnancy,” we picture vitamins, workouts, doctor visits, and meditation.
But rarely do we think about the most important part – becoming a loving, secure, and emotionally connected couple.

Because the truth is, everything you feel for each other, consciously or not, becomes the emotional climate your child grows up in.
Love, patience, kindness – they’re not things you teach later. They’re what you live now.

Where parenting actually begins

Over time, I’ve realized that nothing impacts you more than your partner. The same will be true for your child. Their sense of safety, empathy, and love will mirror the relationship they witness between their parents.

That’s why, before planning for a child, being a loving and emotionally safe couple isn’t optional – it’s non-negotiable.

Parenthood doesn’t start with pregnancy. It starts with partnership – with being best friends and bullet-proof teammates who choose love and respect for each other, every single day.

Because in the end, a strong parent isn’t born the day a child arrives – it’s built in the love two people nurture long before.
The kind of partner you are, shapes the kind of parent you’ll become. And that’s why love must always come first.

A small note before I end

This piece isn’t about preaching how to be good parents.
It’s simply me putting my heart into a part of the conversation we often overlook – one that can quietly shape a child’s life in ways we can’t even imagine.